Rae Stonehouse

Rae Stonehouse

Author Bio:

Rae A. Stonehouse is a Canadian born author & speaker. His professional career as a Registered Nurse working predominantly in psychiatry/mental health, has spanned four decades.

Rae has embraced the principal of CANI (Constant and Never-ending Improvement) as promoted by thought leaders such as Tony Robbins and brings that philosophy to each of his publications and presentations.

Rae has dedicated the latter segment of his journey through life to overcoming his personal inhibitions. As a 20+ year member of Toastmasters International he has systematically built his self-confidence and communicating ability. He is passionate about sharing his lessons with his readers and listeners. His publications thus far are of the self-help, self-improvement genre and systematically offer valuable sage advice on a specific topic.

His writing style can be described as being conversational. As an author Rae strives to have a one-to-one conversation with each of his readers, very much like having your own personal self-development coach. Rae is known for having a wry sense of humour that features in his publications.

Author of Self-Help Downloadable E-Books:

Power Networking for Shy PeoplePower Networking for Shy People: Tips & Techniques for Moving from Shy to Sly!

PROtect Yourself!PROtect Yourself! Empowering Tips & Techniques for Personal Safety: A Practical Violence Prevention Manual for Healthcare Workers.

E=Emcee SquaredE=Emcee SquaredTips & Techniques to Becoming a Dynamic Master of Ceremonies.

Power of PromotionPower of Promotion: On-line Marketing for Toastmasters Club Growth


Phone Rae 250-451-6564 or info@raestonehouse.com

Rae’s social … are you?

Twitter: http://twitter.com/RaeStonehousehttp://twitter.com/RaeStonehouse

Linkedin? Rae is http://www.linkedin.com/in/raestonehousehttp://www.linkedin.com/in/raestonehouse

Copyright 2016 Rae Stonehouse. The above document may be freely copied and distributed as long as the author’s name and contact info remain attached.

To learn more about Rae A. Stonehouse, visit the Wonderful World of Rae Stonehouse at http://raestonehouse.comhttp://raestonehouse.com.

Friday, 09 December 2016 12:14


LinkedIn icon v2Are you Linkedin?



Are you a business professional that:


  • provides a service or product directly to consumers
  • provides a service or product directly to other businesses
  • wants the world, or at least your geographical region to know that you are the ‘go to’ person?


Then you need to be Linkedin. 


The old saying used to be ‘it’s not who you know … it’s who you know!” That has been replaced with ‘It’s not who you know … it’s who knows that you know!”

Blow you own hornv2As a business professional, you should consider Linkedin to be your personal marketing agency and you as your own Public Relations Manager. After-all, if you don’t promote yourself and/or your business, who will?


Reach out and connect with somebody!


Linkedin has effectively cut in half the old ‘six degrees of separation’ theory. Now, three degrees or less can often put you in contact with almost anybody.

The Basic Linkedin is still a free service and is arguably the best deal around.

Even though Linkedin is available for free, there is still a cost involved. It takes time to create a professional image so that the world sees you as a professional.

Do you have the time and the skills to create a professional profile? Okanagan Help4Biz does.

Contact Okanagan Help4Biz for a complimentary assessment of your Linkedin profile. You can then either update your profile yourself or contract with Okanagan Help4Biz and we can do it for you. Contact Okanagan Help4Biz for your complimentary assessment. 

Wednesday, 07 December 2016 12:53

Maximizing Your Online Presence

Helping your business market


Conventional marketing wisdom says that you have to touch your customer 7 to 11 times before they make a purchasing decision.

The internet is arguably the most cost-effective marketing tool available today for small businesses.

While cost-effective, there is still a cost involved. The obvious expense is paying someone to upload your data to the internet, monitor it and update it. Creating your content and tweaking it for search engine optimization also takes time.  Do you have the time to do so? Can you afford to do it yourself? As the old saying goes ‘Time is money!’


“If you always do what you've always done, you will always get what you've always gotten!”


Enter social media. It has added a new dimension to social interaction. Social media is here to stay. At least until the next “big thing” comes along and replaces it. Whether it is for the better or worse would be the subject of an interesting debate.

While many people use it to stay in touch with the daily activities of their family members whether they be local or afar, it has been embraced by the business world. Promotion and marketing is essential to the success of a business. Social media makes it affordable.


Is your business social?


The customer has to see your business’ name, over and over again before they make a decision to check it out. When they have a need for what your business offers, you want them to think about you first.  


Are your potential customers being touched? By you … or another business?


Okanagan Help4Biz offers solutions to maximize your online presence.


Is your Linkedin profile working for or against you?


Okanagan Help4Biz offers several solutions. We offer a complimentary, comprehensive analysis of your current Linkedin profile and will provide you with an electronic copy of the assessment by e-mail. You can then either update your profile yourself or contract with Okanagan Help4Biz to enhance your professional, online presence. Click here for more info on Maximizing your Linkedin Profile.

We also provide live seminars for business professionals throughout the year, where you can learn to ‘do-it-yourself.’ Contact us for upcoming dates. 

Websites are essential these days to promote your business. For a new business, it can be quite costly. Local prices can be $5000.00 or more. There are affordable options. Okanagan Help4Biz offers affordable website development solutions.


Thursday, 01 December 2016 11:50

Small Business Profile 2016


Small Business Profile 2016 Highlights Part 1

Small Business Profile 2016 Highlights part 2


The 2016 edition of the "Small Business Profile: A Profile of Small Business in British Columbia" is now available. Click link below to download.

The report provides information on British Columbia's small businesses, including number of businesses, employment and small business' contribution to the provincial economy.

Small Business Profile 2016 Report PDF Button

Friday, 11 November 2016 01:11

Exchange Online

Image Security 713x350Security and reliability

Exchange Online helps protect your information with advanced capabilities. Anti-malware and anti-spam filtering protect mailboxes. Data loss prevention capabilities prevent users from mistakenly sending sensitive information to unauthorized people. Globally redundant servers, premier disaster recovery capabilities, and a team of security experts monitoring Exchange Online around the clock safeguard your data. And with a guaranteed 99.9% uptime, financially-backed service level agreement, you can count on your email always being up and running. 

Stay in control

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Maintain control over your environment while gaining the advantage of
hosting your email on SherWeb servers. Manage your organization efficiently with the Exchange admin center, an easy-to-use, web-based interface. And IT-level phone support is available to you 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.




Image Easy 713x350Easy to use and maintain

It’s easier than ever to provide your users with the business email they need to stay productive. Automatic patching eliminates the time and effort of maintaining your system. Give your users an In-Place Archive, so they can keep all their important data in one place. And provide them with anywhere access to email, calendar, and contacts on all major browsers and across devices. Integration with Outlook means they’ll enjoy a rich, familiar email experience with offline access. 

What does Hosted Exchange mean?

Hosted Exchange is a version of Microsoft Exchange Server that is delivered and accessed from a remote server or through a cloud service provider. It is a Microsoft Corporation proprietary product that provides the same and enhanced functionality of a standard exchange server, but with a different delivery model.

Hosted Exchange is also known as Exchange Online.

If you currently work or have worked in a corporate environment, it’s a good chance that you were using a Microsoft Exchange powered e-mail solution. Exchange is running on e-mail servers in a vast majority of the business world these days. Many of these servers are administered and maintained by the company I.T. department. Since an Exchange server can handle tens of thousands of e-mail accounts, it’s meant for small business sized companies and up. By itself, a dedicated Exchange server is overkill for most individuals: you don’t need the horsepower and capacity that comes along with the job of maintaining it for a single user.

Hosted Exchange is a viable option for those individuals that want to harness the power of an Exchange server but don’t want to pay for a full server license, buy the appropriate hardware and deal with the maintenance. Much like the web hosting industry where a company bundles many customers on a single web server, Exchange hosting (or Hosted Exchange) is a cost-effective option for individuals. The Exchange service provider bundles many customer mailboxes on a single Exchange server for a monthly or yearly fee. 

What does Hosted Exchange provide? 

Obviously, you have a centralized e-mail server with a hosted Exchange plan, the same as you have with Gmail, Yahoo! Mail and the like. There are a few key differences however; some may help you decide if you need a hosted Exchange plan or not. 

One key feature is that Exchange provides not just your mail and all of your e-mail folders, but your Calendar appointments, Contacts, Notes and Tasks. With one single client connected to Exchange, you can keep all of these artifacts in sync. The ability to have all of this information stored, integrated and backed up in one central location is a good reason to have a hosted Exchange account. 

The second reason is the support for Direct Push synchronization. This is the ability to have all of my information on the Exchange server sent to my many mobile devices in near real-time. I don’t have to worry about a manual send and receive function, nor do I need to synchronize my clients with the Exchange server: it simply stays in sync.   

If you’re on the road and want to always be up to date with your e-mail, contacts, appointments, notes and tasks, a hosted Exchange plan with the right mobile device can definitely boost your productivity at a reasonable price.

Contact us to learn more about our Hosted Exchange Bundles and find a solution to your challenge. 

As orignally answered on Quora.com ...


This question appears to have been kicking around for a while. On January 9, 2015 the author added the following comment: “Good point. I guess I should have asked, "What is the best way to network when you hate networking with a passion." I am great one-on-one and I really enjoy public speaking and performing in front of a large group of people. I just don't like networking. I would like to get better at it and wondered if anyone had any tips they could share.”

Seeing that there hasn’t been any follow-up answers, I have a few to add. Just because one is an introvert doesn’t necessarily mean that one is shy. There are many outgoing introverts. Introversion merely means where you get your energy from. There also shy extroverts.

Monday, 26 September 2016 16:12

Workplace Ogres Be Aware!

ogre faceWorkshop: “Workplace Ogres Be Aware! Practical Tips & Techniques for Resolving Workplace Conflict”



Right road sign arrowDoes your worksite lose productivity due to interpersonal conflict?


Right road sign arrowDo you have a high turnover of staff but don’t know why?


Right road sign arrowCan you feel the tension when you walk into the room?




Your worksite may be experiencing workplace conflict or living in the shadow of a Workplace Ogre.


This is not your typical “stand & deliver” type of training program! Participants will experience a contentious scenario that explores in depth the dynamics of interpersonal conflict, horizontal & vertical violence, values/biases & workplace bullies via small & large group sessions.


Participants will learn techniques to recognize conflict situations in their workplace and effective techniques to resolve the conflict for win-win results.


This highly participative, fun, yes we said “fun”, workshop follows the three A’s format of content delivery: Assessment ~ Awareness ~ Action. Yes, some role playing is involved!


This workshop is suitable for professional development training for groups of 20 to 90 and is available as a four to eight hour session, depending on the depth of the material covered.


For more information on this workshop and pricing, please contact Rae 250-451-6564 or rae@okanaganhelp4biz.ca

Monday, 26 September 2016 16:04

Customized Corporate Training


Rae Stonehouse of Okanagan Help4Biz provides a selection of facilitated seminars, workshops, presentations and stand-alone topics of interest to business groups and organizations to help resolve everyday challenges faced by businesses. All of our workshops & seminars are customizable to your needs. Contact us to see if we have a solution to your challenge that would work for you.  




Helping your business network



The Business Networking Series:  Stand-Alone Seminars/Workshops (duration to be determined based on the needs of the client)


Business Networking 101: The Basics of Networking

Power Networking: Tips & Techniques to Becoming a Power Networker

How High Does Your Elevator Go? How to Create an Elevator Pitch that Opens Doors!

Blow Your Own Horn! Personal Branding for Business Professionals

Referral Marketing Works!

Speaking to Sell

What Comes After the Elevator Pitch?

Tagline Tango: Developing Business Slogans & Taglines That Work



Helping your business develop




Effective Business/Organization Meetings:


Meetings Plus!: Power Strategies to Increase the Effectiveness of Your Business Meetings. 




Workplace Interpersonal Communication/Conflict Resolution Series:


Workshop: “Workplace Ogres Be Aware! Practical Tips & Techniques for Resolving Workplace Conflict

This workshop is suitable for professional development training for groups of 20 to 90 and is available as a four to eight-hour session, depending on the depth of the material covered. 


Workshop: Violence at Work! A Practical Approach to Dealing With Workplace Violence


Once upon a time it was safe to go to work. Maybe that was just a fairy tale because times have certainly changed.  Increased violence has become part of our everyday life be it at home or at work.  We read about it daily in the newspaper and are bombarded with it from the television and radio.


Violence at Work!  explores workplace conflict in its many forms. Drawing on his many years of experience working in hazardous clinical settings and situations as a nurse, Rae A. Stonehouse RN has developed a program that is suitable for a wide range of participants.


Workshop: Assert Yourself!


Effective communication allows us to build healthy relationships in our private lives and healthy partnerships in our business lives.  Ineffective interactions lead to frustration, dysfunctional personal relationships and stagnant organizations.


Assert Yourself! is a training program that teaches you how to confront problematic behavior in yourself and others. Skill development in the areas of effective listening, non-verbal communicating and interpersonal communication help to increase one's level of self-confidence and hence assertiveness.


Workshop: Crisis! What Crisis?


Crisis results from the stress and tension in a person's life. All too often lately we hear stories of how crises have gotten out of control.  The term "going postal" has become part of our everyday language.

As employers, supervisors, and health care workers we are frequently involved in other people's crises. We are often thrust into the position of having to resolve the crisis.


Crisis! What Crisis? explores the nature of crisis and offers proven techniques to resolve crises.


Seminar/Workshop: Communication@Work!


This entertaining & interactive presentation explores healthy and effective communication techniques for getting along in the workplace.


"The problem is not that there are problems. The problem is expecting otherwise and thinking that having problems is a problem." ---Theodore Rubin




For more information on our workshops and pricing, please contact Rae 250-451-6564 or raestonehouse@okanaganhelp4biz.ca


Monday, 26 September 2016 11:22

Speech/Presentations Coaching

Do you have an immediate if not sooner need to be proficient at public speaking?


Right road sign arrowDo you fear speaking to groups or making presentations?


Right road sign arrowIs career advancement or even maintaining your current job dependent upon having effective communication skills but yours are holding you back?


Right road sign arrowDo you have employees that aren't as productive as they should be due to fear or avoidance of public speaking or lack of self-confidence?


Rae Speaks from Lectern 2016v50As the saying goes, "Rae's been there … done that!" Rae used to be crippled by fear of public speaking and would do anything to avoid it. Luckily for him a friend told him about Toastmasters. For the past 22 years Rae has been honing his communication skills, taking on increasingly challenging speaking opportunities. He has developed a passion for speaking and helping others to increase their self-confidence and speaking skills to do the same.

If you have the time, Toastmasters is the world's most economical provider of communication & leadership training. If you don't, then perhaps engaging a personal speech coach is the best investment for you. Toastmasters provides excellent socialization opportunities and a self-directed educational program. Some people require more support to get past their fears and to move on to skill developing. Perhaps that applies to you?

Rae provides a complimentary 30 minute telephone interview to assess your needs. Upon completion, if it is mutually agreeable to develop a coaching relationship, Rae will develop a contract to outline the terms of the coaching relationship. Upon signing of the contract Rae will develop a structured plan to help achieve your goals.

Right road sign arrowDo you currently deliver presentations or speeches and wonder how effective you are at getting your message across? 


Right road sign arrowDo you know what you can do to improve? Friends & family aren't that helpful. They'll tell you how wonderful you are! Your audience will often tell you what they don't like about your presentation, or even worse, they will tell everybody else!

Golden checkmark  Rae provides a comprehensive evaluation of your presentation and offers techniques to maximise your delivery and your message. Consultation includes pre presentation discussion of your objectives, observing & critiquing your presentation and delivery of a comprehensive evaluation.

Golden checkmark 15Rae also "walks the walk." Ask us about group seminars & workshops.

For speech/presentations coaching Call Rae Stonehouse 250-451-6564 or coachme@raestonehouse.com for a complimentary discussion of your needs.

Do you need a Master of Ceremonies for your event? Rae has lots of experience and is known for being entertaining and well organized. Call Rae Stonehouse 250-451-6564 or info@mremcee.ca for a complimentary discussion of your needs.

 I'm not comfortable to talk to a big audience (over 50-60 people), and that is my main concern about holding a speech.


As originally posted on Quora.com


Let me tell you about my book.This appears to me to be one of a classic pain vs gain scenario. Which is better … to feel the pain i.e. the fear of public speaking for a possible gain of increased book sales, further speaking opportunities, increased revenue or not to feel the pain and decline the speaking opportunity?

Declining doesn’t necessarily avoid the pain. It avoids the immediate anxiety and stress of not having to deliver the speech but it opens one up for self-doubt, second thoughts and self-criticism for being a coward for not taking the opportunity.

I find that decisions like this involve emotional and logical thinking to resolve. A fear of public speaking is an example of an emotional response to protect us from feeling the pain. We can back up our fear-protection mode by our logic. “Nobody would want to hear me.”; “I don’t have anything to say”; “it’s all in the book anyways, they don’t need me.”

There are ways however, that we can use our emotional/logical responses strategically to help us make difficult decisions.

As originally posted on Quora.com


What do you see when you look in the mirror?I’m not a fan of standing in front of a mirror and practicing public speaking. I know it is often recommended, but for me, I found it to be awkward and stilted.

First off, I don’t believe that it is accurate. Sure it has to be accurate, it’s a mirror image of what we are actually doing. But as a mirror image, it is reflecting to us what the audience sees, not what we see. I don’t believe that our brains can adequately process the difference between what we see through our eyes and how the audience sees us.

Secondly, when I was first practicing speaking out loud and watching myself in the mirror and timing my speech, I found that I had countless false starts. I found that all the things I was watching in the mirror were taking away from my concentration on the delivery of my content.

As speakers in North America most of us speak an average of 125 to 150 words a minute. We can pick up the speed a little to 250 words a minute, however we will likely lose most of our audience. They will be unable to process what we are saying and keep up to us. Our minds work at the speed of 1000 words or so a minute.

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